ARE YOU VERY ORDERLY OR DO YOU HAVE AN OCD?
At that moment I start to smile and say: no, I don't have OCD, I'm that way from birth.
ORDERED WITH PASSION
I've been aware of my tidy quality since I was eight years old. My love and passion for order began when I saw my sister tidying her own drawers as a child. She is five years older than me and a "born organizer".
At that time I remember that I was fascinated to see how she arranged her paintings by colors and toys by size, carefully covered the books and stuck a badge with her name on each of them. Her math book was worth framing!
She was also extremely careful with her clothes, and I wanted to imitate her. At that point I had the idea of using Sunday pay to "hire" her to teach me how to organize my drawers. And it worked!
I was a gifted student and it was quickly seen that it was in my blood. In a few weeks I did without their services and SimpleLife Organizers, although I did not know it yet, it was already born.
THE KEY TO ORDER
ORDER VS ORGANIZATION
Order and organization are two words that, although we use interchangeably when we speak, have different meanings and are the basis of order.
♦ When we speak of order, we are referring to placing things in their proper place, in fact, if we consult the dictionary of the Royal Spanish Academy, it says thus: "placing things in their proper place". (RAE)
♦ When we speak of organization instead, we mean planning.
And now comes the question: how to know which is the right place?
The answer is given precisely by organization or planning; the study of space and content is the key to lasting order.
Many of my clients tell me that they order but that the order does not last. The diagnosis is clear: they have entered a china shop like elephants and have not planned before.
In the organization, it is also worth highlighting another important variable, which is the user. It is not the same to organize a baby's room than the bedroom of an adult or an elderly person.
When I started ordering, I didn't follow any method. I just ordered. At first it seemed that I had done well, but after a week my drawer was no longer the model drawer I had ordered days before.
Then I realized that something was wrong and I began to group my plastidecores on one side and use rubber bands to contain them, cardboard boxes for the Alpino pencils, and Yoplait yogurt cans for the erasers and pencil sharpeners.
Without knowing the meaning, I unconsciously started planning and every day I looked for new organizational systems that would keep all my belongings at bay.
ORDER AS A PRINCIPLE OF THE UNIVERSE
Order is a concept that already appears in the explanation of the origins of the universe.
Any reflection on the world requires an order for its interpretation; either divine, magical, mythological or coming from human reason. Each culture has built an order according to its beliefs and interpretations.
From ancient philosophical thought in which order arises from a natural law to the modern age, order has given rise to reflections and judgments.
THESE ARE MY FAVORITES:
"With order and time you will find the secret of doing everything, and of doing it well."
“Life is a universal work of organization; he who does not live for order betrays life. "
RICARDO LEÓN AND ROMÁN
"Establish order: habit will take care of maintaining it."
DUKE OF LEVIS
"Our environment is connected to us and reflects our mind: when it is disorderly, our mind is too."
"You could say that ordering orders the mind, while cleaning cleanses it."
"Love as the beginning, order as the basis, progress as the end."
"Take care of order so that order takes care of you."
"Starting with himself and his people, he first put order in his house, which for most is no less difficult than governing a province."
“Take advantage of the time that flies so fast; order will teach you to buy time. "
"Using order to deal with disorder, using calm to deal with those who are agitated, this is mastering the heart."
"Love is a part of order. Order precedes love, and love can only develop within the framework of order. "
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THE ACCUMULATION: THE MAIN ENEMY OF THE ORDER
In the accumulation process, how we feel about our homes, where we work and even about ourselves, plays a very important role.
The collection of useless objects could be understood as carrying a backpack loaded with stones on the back that when we drop it we obtain a large dose of extra energy. After releasing this burden we gain clarity and vitality. This is easy to understand, however why do we accumulate objects that we no longer need?
1. MORE POSSESSIONS MEAN MORE VALUE
Society convinces us that we are worth more if we own more. So we buy and accumulate possessions not because we need more things, but because we want to be more valuable in the eyes of others.
2. LOW SELF-ESTEEM
We often feel unacceptable, incompetent, and unimportant. We believe that we are not capable of achieving our dreams, of finding true love, or of doing something different in life.
We lack guidance and passion. We feel the void that lack of goals leaves in our hearts and we try to fill it with purchases, goods and merchandise, because we believe that this will make us happy. Or at least that's what the commercials, advertisements and posters that flood our minds every day promise us.
3. LOOKING AT THE PAST
We tend to hold onto objects that remind us of happier times when we felt loved, worthy, and considered.
We retain memories of a time when we were successful in sports, when our careers were thriving, or when we weighed less and were younger.
We convert and glorify those objects from when we were once good enough and had reason to be proud of ourselves.
These objects remind us that we are NOT a lost cause and that there is still hope that our life will be worthwhile.
4. FEAR TO SAY NO
On many occasions, we believe that we are only worthy of the love, respect and appreciation of other people if we please them non-stop. So we dare not say "no" if our grandmother offers us her collection of porcelain dolls of more than 100 pieces.
We keep the sweater that our best friend gave us, even though we know we will never wear it. We don't want to bother our partner by throwing away thousands of branded souvenir books from their business trips.
We can't tell our sister that even if we wear the same size of pants, we already have enough jeans.
And so the disorder grows because we want to please others, make them feel happy and feel worthy of their love or friendship.
5. BY CUSTOM
We are so used to our messy life that we are adept at dealing with clutter, and we reorganize our lives around chaos, no matter how unpleasant it is and even convincing ourselves that our house isn't that messy either.
6. FEAR OF CHANGE
The entire organizing process is overwhelming at first. Where to start? Will it really be worth it?
Clutter throws us off balance and can sometimes even embarrass us, so we choose not to start rather than risk failure because failure would mean we are hopeless.
By postponing organization, disorder wins over and over again. It traps us in an endless cycle of guilt, shame, self-condemnation, and anxiety, making things worse than they ever were.